Stop Playing the Comparison Game


By Katie Torres

Our CEO loves to share blog posts written by Seth Godin. 

He shared one a few weeks back that particularly struck me as inspiring (here's the link if you want to read it for yourself).

His post was about our tendency to compare ourselves to the lives of others, particularly when it comes to how we view them on social media.

His point was that holding ourselves to a standard that isn't even necessarily based in reality is not the best way to determine our own success.

I finished reading his post, and just as I have after reading all of his blog posts, I felt extremely inspired...and also a little discouraged.

You see, Seth Godin writes exquisitely. He says all that he needs to say, usually in a very small amount of space. He writes so well that he doesn't even need to take up 500 words to be inspiring.

So I often compare my own writing style to his, and it's no wonder I feel like I'm missing the mark somewhere.

And then I realized...I was doing exactly what he said we shouldn't do.

I was comparing my own success to the success of someone I've never even met, based on a beautiful, polished post that he published on the internet.

It truly is a reality that his writing is great. But, what about the parts of his blog that I don't see?

I don't see how much time it takes for him to come up with great ideas.

I don't see the work he puts into editing his words before perfecting them.

I don't see the years he's spent working at what he does, to get to where he is now.

Does my writing need work? Sure. It always will, no matter how great it gets.

Do you need to practice and keep working to get better at what you do? Absolutely. We all do.

But playing this comparison game does not benefit us.

Let's appreciate what others bring to the world, without sinking into discouragement if we don't think we're as talented (or as beautiful, or as smart...etc.)

We can appreciate others and improve ourselves at the same time.

In fact, maybe the beginning of self-improvement starts only when we choose to end the comparison game.